Relationship & couples therapy

My focus is on strengthening secure connection through a holistic, embodied relational process. This blends attachment approaches (EFT for couples) and differentiation (the edge of self and other). Together we’ll look underneath the reactive patterns causing disconnection. We’ll explore new more core elements and create new ways to shift towards the connection you want. I am sex and kink positive with a focus on supporting queer folk and open relationships.

  • Support for a secure & zesty connection.

  • Conflict doesn’t need to feel terrible. Conflict can create growth and bring people together.

  • Balance togetherness and autonomy, mutuality defined by what works for each of you.

  • Interpersonal skills: speaking from the heart and empathizing through difficulty.

  • Inclusive of exploring power/privilege: unspoken asymmetries and expectations that diminish your relationships and sense of aliveness. Let’s create what you want.

  • I specialize in supporting queer couples, sexual challenges and open relationships.

  • trauma informed

I can help with…

  • conflict & repair

  • building trust & security

  • queer couples

  • codependency

  • sex, eroticism, pleasure

  • open relationships and other non-traditional forms

  • infidelity and betrayal

  • conscious uncoupling

  • other close relationships: friends, family, queer platonic

Approaches

Attachment-Based

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT for Couples)

Sex Therapy

Family Systems

kink allied

Influenced by Esther Perel, Stan Tatkin, Resmaa Menakem and Terry Real

Monsters in Love~ Resmaa Menakem

Wired for Love ~ Stan Tatkin

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence ~ Esther Perel

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy ~ Jessica Fern

Come as You are ~ Emily Nagoski

The Birth of Pleasure ~ Carol Gilligan

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