Relationship therapy

My approach blends attachment models from Emotionally Focused Therapy and Stan Tatkin’s work to understand relationship patterns and strategies to shift. The focus is on strengthening secure connection and seeing you together in a holistic relational-somatic process. We’ll look at relational patterns underfoot that cause disconnection and explore new patterns to feel each other, to care for each other, and to celebrate together. I am sex and kink positive with specialization working with queer folk and open relationships.

  • Focus on being there for each other, moving through stuck patterns and focusing on emotional connection.

  • Conflict doesn’t need to feel terrible. Though it might not be easy, it can be productive. Conflict creates growth and brings people together.

  • Aim for differentiation, togetherness, autonomy and mutuality defined by what works for each of you.

  • Interpersonal skills: speaking from the heart, like empathizing through difficulty.

  • Inclusive of exploring power/privilege, dynamics and expectations that dampen your relationships and diminish your aliveness. Let’s create what you want.

  • I specialize and love supporting queer couples, open relationships.

  • trauma informed

I can help with…

  • conflict

  • trust & security

  • staleness & re-sparking

  • queer couples

  • codependency

  • sexual topics

  • open relationships

  • infidelity and betrayal

  • conscious uncoupling

  • other close relationships: friends, family, queer platonic

Approaches

attachment-based

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)

PACT

Institute for Relational Intimacy

sex positive

kink allied

Recommended books

Monsters in Love ~ Resmaa Menakem

Wired for Love ~ Stan Tatkin

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence ~ Esther Perel

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy ~ Jessica Fern

Come as You are ~ Emily Nagoski

The Birth of Pleasure ~ Carol Gilligan